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new to you friday–on the drink

I like this one. The original post received no comments, probably because I had just started blogging, but I’d love to hear your thoughts now.

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This week’s Christian Standard features an article on “The 12-Stepping Church” by Dan Gilliam, who until recently served as minister of meditation and prayer at LifeBridge Christian Church in CO. He discusses the history of Alcoholics Anonymous and the value of AA and other programs in serving and possibly sharing Jesus with people in recovery.

I’m all for churches adopting the 12 steps, Celebrate Recovery, etc. As Gilliam writes, “Many Christians, having seen remarkable transformations firsthand, believe 12-step fellowships are nothing less than an anonymous arm of Christ’s church, exposing agnostics, atheists, and pre-Christians to the life-changing gospel without some of the more religious aspects that could close their minds to God.”

As I read, I found myself thinking that while it’s now okay to say “I’m an alcoholic” at many churches, it’s not okay to say “I’m a moderate drinker.” For many Christians, any and all alcohol consumption falls into the “black” side of a black and white world.

There’s no question that the best way to avoid substance abuse is to avoid the substance completely. For many people it’s less an issue of legalism and more a recognition of weakness. I have friends who struggle with moderation in eating or spending money and have decided not to add drinking as another temptation in life. I respect that.

For others it’s generational. Many of my Christian friends drink, but most of their parents do not.

Opinions on the issue also vary geographically. Recently I interviewed for a staff position with a church back in the midwest. To remain above reproach, the church requires all paid staff to completely abstain from alcohol. Again, I respect this—the congregation adopted this policy to protect its staff and to make a statement to the community. Although I enjoy a glass of wine most evenings, I would have happily agreed to this rule if called to this role.

But several of my Christian friends out here expressed surprise at the restriction. “You can’t drink at all?” they asked. “What’s the big deal?” Californians tend to (often wrongly) consider themselves more progressive than everyone else, but in this area they do seem less conservative. Whether it’s the proximity to Napa or to Hollywood, the no-booze-for-good-Christians mindset is much rarer here than in the Bible Belt.

And this can be both good and bad. The line between “social drinker” and “heavy drinker” can be a fine one for some folks, and the mindset that all drinking is bad avoids that line altogether. However, it also creates rules that can alienate sincere seekers like my friend who—when presented with the gospel and asked if he wanted to accept Jesus—said, “I want to be a Christian, but……..can I still have a beer with my pizza?”

At the end of the day, (around cocktail hour), it becomes a matter of conscience for every Christian. This isn’t as nice and neat as our Evangelical Prohibition, but I think it is more biblical.

April 16, 2010 - Posted by | life, opinions | , , , , , ,

9 Comments »

  1. I grew up in the midwest, in the 40s and 50s, in a minister’s family. I have geography, generation, and biography against drinking of alcoholic beverages. As an adult, I studied Scripture to be able to teach my children in a more informed way. I found certain passages I couldn’t explain away as easily as my church seemed to do–don’t drink MUCH wine, don’t get drunk, Paul telling Timothy to stop drinking only water and use a little wine because of his stomach and frequent illnesses.

    I don’t want to get into an argument regarding these passages. But, at my advanced age (!), I have come to the conclusion that a glass of wine in the evening is a very pleasant, and godly, way to enjoy winding down the day with my husband and/or friends.

    I would never want to cause someone to “stumble” because of my glass of wine. But I wonder how many more have stumbled because of my early legalism?

    Comment by Alva Lee Harley | April 16, 2010 | Reply

  2. Where the Bible Speaks we speak. The Bible does not, to my knowledge, say we can not drink. It does make it clear that we should not get drunk. Also laws against under aged drinking should be followed because God has put governments in place. I don’t drink because of the witness I believe it bears to those I know and meet. (I do it to win some, not because I feel it is wrong). PS I have lived in California all my life—find people like to drown their lives in many different things including alcohol. What they need is Jesus to set them free!

    Comment by John Piercy | April 16, 2010 | Reply

    • I agree with your points–including the fact that people will find all KINDS of unhealthy ways to take the edge off reality. Motives and moderation are huge.

      Comment by Jennifer | April 16, 2010 | Reply

  3. As a born Midwesterner, I’m familiar with the hesitancy and questioning about whether it’s okay for Christians to drink. Now as a Californian, I see the pendulum has swung to the other extreme (your example of friends who were surprised by a drinking restriction)- to: of course Christians drink!

    A certain college here still restricts students from drinking – while they are registered. A friend who recently enrolled was frustrated by how many of her Christian friends ridiculed the policy, and stated they simply would ignore it.

    Comment by j a n | April 16, 2010 | Reply

  4. Questions like this remind me of Augistine’s line, “Love God and do what you want.”

    I’m convinced that Christians are going to come to different opinions on what used to be called “debatable matters”. We just will.

    Romans 14 does not mean to straightjacket ourselves to the lowest common denominator of freedom. What it does mean is that we truly respect each other and seek each other’s best. That’s where I love the part of our plea that seeks “in all things, charity”.

    For that reason, you might choose not to drink around me, and I might choose not to notice if you do.

    I may never be comfortable joining you in a glass of wine, but I’ll be pleased to join you around the Throne.

    Comment by Al | April 16, 2010 | Reply

  5. Wow, the writers above demonstrate intelligence, excellent exegesis, balance, meaningful nuances, and respect for the opinions of others. I guess all I can add is, “Bottoms up!”

    Comment by Robert Carswell | April 16, 2010 | Reply

  6. honestly i fall into the camp of ‘what’s the big deal anyway?’

    i didn’t grow up that way. my parents don’t drink, don’t believe in it, but don’t fault me for my beliefs either. (at least i don’t think they do!)

    when i was in college, the nazarene university’s policy was that we weren’t to have alcohol on campus or drink while enrolled in classes. i had no problem abiding by that–considering i was underage until over halfway through my junior year anyway! i took a couple of drinks during the summers when i wasn’t ‘representing the university’ but i was happy to stand by my original agreement.

    i don’t know as i would be that quick to sign an agreement as an adult though. i truly believe that a healthy respect for alcohol is necessary–however i also truly believe that enjoying a glass of wine (or in my case a mixed drink with vodka or whiskey straight up) is not really a factor in my relationship with my Creator. with so many other “big deal” things going on in my life, this alcohol thing? eh.

    (i also fall into the camp of ‘i wish Christians would stop arguing over things unnecessary to salvation’ and know that’s never gonna happen, so i realize that it IS a big deal to some, and i respect that. i just ask for the same respect in my views as well!)

    Comment by Lora | April 16, 2010 | Reply

  7. I am a sober alcoholic. I am also a Christian. I remember one of my attitudes when I started drinking was to exercise my right to have a minor vice the same way most of the christian leaders I looked up to had.

    One man I looked up to, although he didn’t commit adultery, was quite open about his flirtation and the fact he enjoyed the company of attractive women. Another man I looked up to was quite openly intolerant of certain personality types.

    Both of these appeared to me in my young Christian thinking as allowable weaknesses. I used this rationalization as a green light for me to have the occasional drink. Little did I know, that my makeup was such that “occasional” didnt and could never last too long. It moved quickly to frequently and then to excess.

    I am not stating this to blame these men. And I do not wish to judge them. I am trying to state it as an error in judgement on my part by allowing my observation of their compromise as an excuse for me to compromise.

    I hope to not serve as such an example to others. And also to be wiser in my own choices about how I allow others to influence my decision-making.

    For me the debate is simple. For me, I don’t drink because I don’t stop. It is beyond the power of my will once I start.

    I am for erring on the side of caution and I would probably influence others to avoid it if possible without making it a legalistic issue. Drink or don’t drink as the result of wise and calm decision. Not an imposed law. At the same time, think about who you may be affecting. Is it worth it?

    Ciao.

    Chaz

    Comment by Chaz | April 16, 2010 | Reply

    • Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

      Comment by Jennifer | April 16, 2010 | Reply


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