Comments on: http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2007/02/23/410/ Sat, 15 Oct 2011 20:21:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: new to you friday—time to man up « Write About Now http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-1180 Fri, 11 Dec 2009 14:22:43 +0000 http://writeaboutnow.christianstandard.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-1180 [...] looking-for-conflict approach to life—you can read that discussion in the comments from the original post. But you don’t have to look for it—conflict is inevitable. Yes, Virgina, even in [...]

]]> By: happy blogiversery « Write About Now http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-704 Sun, 19 Apr 2009 20:22:21 +0000 http://writeaboutnow.christianstandard.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-704 [...] means dealing with reality—including [...]

]]> By: Soren http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-222 Thu, 26 Apr 2007 12:57:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnow.christianstandard.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-222 Jen,

This post really busted my chops (I mean that in a good way). I read the excerpt in your Dad’s column in this week’s CS. Thanks for the challenge!

]]> By: Brianmpei http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-194 Tue, 13 Mar 2007 11:13:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnow.christianstandard.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-194 There’s a time to speak and a time to be silent but mostly in church the cranky get to speak and everyone else goes silent.

We equate conflict with ungodliness. Thank God Nathan and David didn’t live in our time or he may have only lost his throne when Bathsheba came forward with DNA results from her mis-carriage to sue David for the kingdom.

]]> By: Robert http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-193 Fri, 09 Mar 2007 16:47:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnow.christianstandard.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-193 Jen, Great comments, the only reason I can see why people don’t put simple leadership principles in place are because in many smaller churches the dynamics are more like a mafia-family than a corporation. The (lay) leadership is based on patronage, family ties, and power rather than qualifications. The staff is there at the whim and will of leaders and must pay proper homage; this precludes any serious accountability.
Great blog, by the way, you have a lot of great thoughts!

]]> By: Jen http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-192 Sat, 24 Feb 2007 20:48:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnow.christianstandard.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-192 I’m a big fan of assertiveness and a big critic of aggressiveness. I think I can understand–and practice–the difference in most situations, but that’s different from seeing situations as black and white, one-person-right and one-person-wrong. People “stuff” is always messy. But assertiveness at least starts the conversation, which is half the battle.

]]> By: Steve Jones http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-191 Sat, 24 Feb 2007 20:27:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnow.christianstandard.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-191 Insightful. I’m copying your post to my leaders, not because they need it, necessarily, but because what you articulate is a good reminder to all of us. I’m a conflict-avoider by nature. That has cost me and the people I’ve served. I’m working hard to overcome that passivity.

Having said that, I’m also wary of those who seem to possess the “gift” of confrontation. I find that most people-problems are complex and nuanced. Is it really that clear to you, Jen?

]]> By: Stephen http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-190 Fri, 23 Feb 2007 21:28:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnow.christianstandard.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-190 Thank you for your insightful comments about communication and reality and the few leaders who are able confront an unpleasent reality. Perhaps they are just “too spiritual.”

]]> By: Anonymous http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-189 Fri, 23 Feb 2007 18:55:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnow.christianstandard.com/2007/02/23/410/#comment-189 I lived this type of leadership this week. It is very disheartening as a “lower” level employee to not have the back up of a their leader when in a point of crisis. It should never be ok for a leader to not have the spine to be honest and to take the hit rather then saving face for their mistake. Will this problem ever be solved? I doubt it. No matter what organization one works “for” there will be corrupt management.

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