Comments on: http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/ Sat, 15 Oct 2011 20:21:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Anonymous http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/#comment-43 Thu, 07 Sep 2006 04:38:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/#comment-43 I am a single 32 year old man raised in a christian home that wishes he had a family and should have been raising his 2nd child by now:

I think that Christian guys are conditioned by Churchiosity itself to be too nice. To not be aggressive, to turn the other cheek, to be meek and mild…

It was shocking for me to read in the book “No More Christian Nice Guy” (paraphrased) that christian girls wanted to date a guy that was a christian less than 2 years because he still had some “man” left in him.

Perhaps Christian types fall easily into also being romantics,
waiting for god to tell him, waiting for a vision, waiting for a princess, for a proverbs 31 woman or whatever stereotypes you want to use.
The guys are so romantic, they can’t be realistic about dating and considering the beautiful persons right under their noses.

If the ladies could just TALK to the guys you are interested in and give them enough openings and feedback to let them know you aren’t gonna stomp on them if they ask you out. You guys have the gift of gab, use it. ( a little flirting goes a long way )

- Derek

]]> By: ccinnova http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/#comment-42 Wed, 06 Sep 2006 23:36:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/#comment-42 When I was a younger man, all my pursuits of single Christian women were met with rejection. Now that I’m well into my forties, I’m having a very difficult time meeting single Christian women who aren’t workaholics, bitter toward an ex-husband or otherwise unable to have a healthy relationship. The last time I set up a date, I got stood up.

Like it or not, this is the reality many of us single Christian men face. It frankly does no good to point the finger at us and ask why we don’t take the initiative if the single Christian women aren’t willing to do their part.

]]> By: Anonymous http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/#comment-41 Wed, 06 Sep 2006 18:55:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/#comment-41 Sadly, I think that you’re (we’re) paying the price of the women’s movement. Christian guys are often intimidated by “strong” women. Groups can be comfortably numb.

]]> By: jan@theviewfromher http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/#comment-40 Mon, 04 Sep 2006 18:45:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/#comment-40 And of course, “waiting on the Lord” doesn’t just mean…waiting. As in sitting at home, going to church, waiting to do certain things or go certain places. Because while waiting for God’s provision of marriage, we must not neglect the many provisions He’s already given us as singles: discretionary income, time, abilities, freedom. Are we doing all we can with what He’s already provided? Otherwise, as in the parable of the harsh master, why would He ever give us more?

]]> By: Paul http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/#comment-39 Wed, 30 Aug 2006 19:32:00 +0000 http://writeaboutnowjt.wordpress.com/2006/08/28/38/#comment-39 Being one of those Single Christian men I don’t know if I really have an answer to why Christian guys don’t take the intiative more.

I know for me personally it has been due to a lack of Christian women whom I am attracted to. I have pursued every woman I have ever been interested in, but things haven’t worked out (though the trend seems to be that after me they get married to the next guy).

But I want to throw this out there, isn’t possible that we have become to fixated on being married, that marriage is some sort of Christian virtue? What should we do with Jesus’ statement in Matthew 19:11, 12 that it is better not to be married (though admittedly there is more going on in that passage)?

So I guess one has to consider are they waiting on the Lord to give them something that He never intended for them to have?

Just some thoughts to think about.

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